Summary

Angela and Naomi talk about how to access therapy if you’re not sure what it would be like/if it’s the right choice for you. They share perspectives on how therapy has helped them personally and within relationships, and note some red and green flags to look for when deciding if a therapist is a good match for your needs as a client.

Naomi has also compiled some links as jumping off points for exploring the possibilities of therapy. Captain Awkward offers multiple resources, and Psychology Today has a Find a Therapist search tool built into their homepage that can sort by a number of factors including location, insurance, and therapeutic specialty.

Queerly Yours has a website and a twitter now! You can also submit questions or topic suggestions to the new Queerly Yours email address, .

Content warning: this episode contains brief, non-detailed references to eating disorders, assault/abuse, and suicidal feelings.

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Angela shares her poetry and other creative projects on her Patreon and twitter

Naomi writes RPGs, makes zines, and shares podcast bonuses on their Patreon and talks about game design on twitter 

Summary

Naomi and Angela are moving in together soon! To celebrate, they reflect on past shared living experiences (with each other and others) and discuss the key themes they’ve found helpful for fostering comfortable, communicative roommate dynamics.

Naomi recommends a couple of roommate resources during this episode: Captain Awkward’s vast and varied archive of roommate-related advice, and the charming comic book Poorcraft, which has a section on housing as well as many other topics related to living on limited means.

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Angela shares her poetry and other creative projects on her Patreon and twitter

Naomi writes RPGs, makes zines, and shares podcast bonuses on their Patreon and talks about game design on twitter 

Summary

Angela and Naomi break from their standard format for a previously hinted at special episode, and play a two-person tabletop roleplaying game about communication and intimacy (and also giant robots). Listen in for some silliness, some tenderness, some deep space machine repair, Naomi’s first foray into sci-fi audio editing, and Angela sneaking in a meme-based prank.

If you’d like to learn more about the #sadmechjam, you can check out all the entries and read about the project here. To download Naomi’s original RPG Salvage What We Can Together, the game played on this episode, visit the game page here.

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Angela writes poetry at http://www.patreon.com/philosofemme and twitter.com/Phoenix24Femme


Naomi writes RPGs, makes zines, and shares podcast bonuses at http://www.patreon.com/adanarama and talks about game design at twitter.com/adanarama 

Summary

Naomi and Angela talk about some of their hobbies, both ones they share and ones they enjoy separately, and offer strategies for supporting your partner’s hobbies while also being honest about your own level of interest (or lack thereof) in the things they enjoy. The hosts also discuss the concept of the “man cave” in more analytic depth than it probably deserves.

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Angela writes poetry at http://www.patreon.com/philosofemme and twitter.com/Phoenix24Femme

Naomi writes RPGs, makes zines, and shares podcast bonuses at http://www.patreon.com/adanarama and talks about game design at twitter.com/adanarama 

Summary

Angela and Naomi talk about what polyamory means to them, common assumptions and misconceptions around the concept, and pitfalls to avoid when exploring a relationship format that is new to you.

You can find Angela’s article on polyamory on the Art for Ourselves website here.

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Angela writes poetry at http://www.patreon.com/philosofemme and twitter.com/Phoenix24Femme

Naomi writes RPGs, makes zines, and shares podcast bonuses at http://www.patreon.com/adanarama and talks about game design at twitter.com/adanarama 

Summary

Naomi and Angela answer a listener prompt about how to handle mistakes, failures, and forgiveness in relationships. Listen in to hear about owning up to mistakes, some of the ingredients of a good apology, cases when apologies aren’t the solution, and ways to reflect on controlling impulses in oneself and in others.

Content warning: this episode contains some discussion of dynamics of abuse and control in intimate relationships.

If you like the show, please consider leaving us a rating and review on iTunes! You can find the link for that here.

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 Angela writes poetry at http://www.patreon.com/philosofemme and twitter.com/Phoenix24Femme

 Naomi writes RPGs, makes zines, and shares podcast bonuses at http://www.patreon.com/adanarama and talks about game design at twitter.com/adanarama 

Summary

In a special episode format, hosts Angela and Naomi posed a question to the Internet – what relationship advice do you wish you could give your teenage self? Join them as they sort through and reflect on a range of sweet, tender, funny, and intense answers that all of us can learn from. 

Content warning: this episode contains brief discussion of abusive relationships.

This episode also has a few audio glitches that couldn’t be easily caught via editing without also cutting out a lot of wonderful quotes and conversation, so expect occasional short sections of audio with faint background fuzz, clicks, or thunks, and thank you for bearing with us!

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 Angela writes poetry at http://www.patreon.com/philosofemme and twitter.com/Phoenix24Femme

 Naomi writes RPGs, makes zines, and shares podcast bonuses at http://www.patreon.com/adanarama and talks about game design at twitter.com/adanarama 

Summary

Join Naomi and Angela for a Valentine’s Day special about sidestepping social norms, connecting genuinely with those you love, and figuring out what romance really means to you and your partner(s). If you’re not sure how to talk about the ways that cultural expectations around Valentine’s Day gifts, intimacy, and affection affect your relationship(s), this is a great episode for you. If you’re not sure how you feel about romantic gestures or holidays in general, this is a great episode for you. If you are hyped about romance and want to dig deeper into what it means to you and others, this is also a great episode for you! Basically what we’re saying is that it’s a great episode for this, or any, season.

You can find the free, nontraditional e-valentines that Naomi mentions on Scarleteen’s website right here.

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 Angela writes poetry at http://www.patreon.com/philosofemme and twitter.com/Phoenix24Femme

 Naomi writes RPGs, makes zines, and shares podcast bonuses at http://www.patreon.com/adanarama and talks about game design at twitter.com/adanarama 

Summary

If you’ve ever been unsure of how to describe or summarize the Queerly Yours podcast when sharing it with others, this channel trailer is the solution! Learn a little bit about what make this show special, then check out any of our full, ad-free episodes on your favorite podcatcher.

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Angela writes poetry at http://www.patreon.com/philosofemme and twitter.com/Phoenix24Femme

Naomi writes RPGs, makes zines, and shares podcast bonuses at http://www.patreon.com/adanarama and talks about game design at twitter.com/adanarama 

Summary

Angela and Naomi both love tabletop roleplaying games (RPGs)! In fact, they love them so much that they decided to make a whole episode about how relationship dynamics can operate in games, and how their philosophies around games and relationships interconnect and inform each other. The hosts journey into topics like game group dynamics, consent in nonsexual social situations, the role(s) of RPGs in queer and trans community building, and games as relationship metaphors.

@LammaticHama’s tweet about game design that Naomi mentions can be found here.

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 Angela writes poetry at http://www.patreon.com/philosofemme and twitter.com/Phoenix24Femme

 Naomi writes RPGs, makes zines, and shares podcast bonuses at http://www.patreon.com/adanarama and talks about game design at twitter.com/adanarama